Falling out of love with the politics of friendship part 1.

The following post is devoid of humour and for that I apologise an advance.

Social politics are really beginning to get on my tits at the moment, chiefly the mistaken belief held by many that just because they get on with and have respect for a person it so follows that everyone else should too.

I am of the firm belief that you just can't get along with everybody, and what's more it is fine to not even try beyond a certain point.

Everyone I am introduced to will have a different perspective, different moral values and a completely different first impression of me than the previous person that met me. Someone you really like and get on with may annoy the living shit out of me from day one. Factors such as the type of mood we were both in at the time may come into play or we simply may be too similar or too dissimilar for a friendship to develop. Does it make me or them a bad person? Not at all and it doesn't mean I have a problem with you being friends, it doesn't mean I am ever going to be annoyed with you for interacting or socialising with them, it just means I may choose not to. I personally don't like to spend time around people that annoy me, or hold radically different beliefs or opinions that offend me, or who have I zero in common with and neither should they. That's all there is to it.

The reverse is also true and just as annoying ie. when somebody has fallen out with a person or just plain can't stand them to begin with, why am I suddenly expected to fall in line and start dissing them too? I am not a fucking baby, I don't walk around being led by the nose, I form an opinion of someone and then stick to it until they give me a reason to rethink.

I have actually more than once had people stop talking to me because they have fallen out with someone I still get along with, for reasons that are fuck all to do with me in any way shape or form. I know peoples ego's can get bruised and they may be under the impression that I have taken a side but the truth is I have done the opposite. If I am not willing to fall out with someone on your say so then take it as a given that I would never disrespect you or take sides against you either.

The day a person wakes up to the fact that these expectations are unrealistic, and there is no shame in that is a happy one indeed.